Kids and Relocations

God Bless all the kids who've been thru relocations!! 


Most of us parents think that relocating will be great for our children. They will learn another language, visit exotic places and meet other kids from all over the world. This is all true and it's great. Who doesn't want to raise a bi-lingual child? Plus, the college applications look a lot better with the international experience. 


It seems so perfect. But what could be the down side? 


Well, first, the school choices are limited. Second, the kids will lose their freedom. And third, their friend choices will be limited for a while. I think I've already covered the school subject, so lets talk about the other stuff.


Most developments in the US are safe. The kids can play on the streets, ride their bikes to friends homes and wait for the school buses by themselves. In both Mexico City and Sao Paulo this won't happen. Unless you live in a gated community. But once you leave your bubble the kids could be in danger. But often the fear is of robberies and not sexual assault. Still, it is a real fear. So the kids are constantly under surveillance. So good-bye freedom.


The friends are a huge issue. The kids leave all their friends behind and get out of their comfort zone. They need to re start their whole lives. Just like with us, the kids will try to make friends with other people who can speak their language. Most times this choices are limited. They'll have the kids form school and maybe a couple of kids in the neighborhood. But are they going to become friends? Speaking the same language is one thing, having common interests is something else.


What if your child ends up in a classroom with bullies? As I told you before, there is no bullying policies in place at the international schools. Well, the Graded is starting to establish one, but they are not quite there yet. And kids can be mean. 


Many times the kids in the neighborhood will play in their native language. If it is not english - or your native language - your kids will feel left out. The sports the kids play can also be different, making it hard to socialize.  


My advice is to talk to your child about all the challenges and rewards and to get ready to host as many play dates as you can. By doing so you meet your kids  friends and their parents. It will help your kids adapt quicker. Maybe you'll also make some new friends. And always listen to your children and their concerns. In the end this will be an unforgettable experience for them!